The previous posts were quite philosophical, that is, hard to follow. Today I'm talking about your (?) relationships... But at first I must begin with you - who are you, how do you behave and what do you think about yourself.
The first and most important thing in your every single relationship is - you. Without it there is no need to talk about relationships at all - but because you are reading this (in whatever virtual identity) then I think this point is fulfilled.
What about you? You must be you... not someone whom your partner, friend or fellow most likely wants that you are. And this means, that it is natural if you behave as you always are - there is common mistake to become someone who you never have been - just to gain interest, love and passion from someone you like very much. It's top of iceberg - you can't become someone you aren't. Yes - you can look like someone other looks, but it takes little time before all this "building" comes down with a painful crash - don't do this to others and yourself. If someone is truly interested in you (not just for short "sex period" or flirting) then it must be you not some kind of actress/actor wearing unnatural mask.
And it doesn't matter if you are not most beautiful, most sexy, most friendly, most wanted and so on... you must love yourself as you are - then is it possible also accept true and long lasting friendship...
Of course this doesn't mean that you must be simple, fool and arrogant - there is more in you than just animal. You have a big and developed brain and also huge pool of emotions in it... that to know what feelings are raising from what kind of actions.
So - the first point was about loving and taking care of yourself, before and while in a relationship.
What comes next? Partner. Of course you cant decide with one moment behaves he/she honestly or not - some kinds of "mistakes" swim up after some time of living together. But again - if he behaves like someone he is not , then there will be again misunderstandings and trouble. But it depends also from this how you like to see him/her - maybe you show him with your "likings - mislikings" what kind of partner do you like the most? But be honest - you can't change someone to be different person, as also yourself.
So second point - respect individuality, embrace differences, and allow the other person to be him-/herself.
That's it for the post.
Take care!
Saturday, September 27, 2008
Tuesday, September 23, 2008
Emotions - To have or not to have?
So - let's make some more reading :)
Today I'm intended to talk about you! Weird idea? Because I don't know anything about you... Or your relationships... At first glance it may be, but if to think logically - why not accept myself as you, despite of gender. Is it possible at all? I think it is... in some part at least... OK - let's discuss it a little bit more...
What is most important feature of a human being - be it baby, man-woman, grandpa-grandma? If you want to agree with me - EMOTIONS. Yes-yes also for animals (as we also are)... But because human brain is enormously larger, more important -more structurized - so also our emotional capabilities and emotional memory. For animals this creates so called reflexes, for human beings emotions create a huge and rich pool of emotions some part of which creates the way we all behave. Yes- it sounds too complicated but it is so - we are also complicated. Why I'm telling this to you? To you to understand, that there is not one and single way to become happier, to become more acceptable as friend and to become loved by someone whom you love. And know what? The most important physical feature of a human in regard of sympathy are what? Your eyes! because there is a "highway" between your emotions-feelings and your eyes. You can somewhat change what your eyes are reflecting by way of forcing your brain to think about some feelings (it is more correct to say - to remember some of your past feeling) and so to mirror your emotion about the feeling. Call it - DREAMING.
There is only a big question - have you such feeling in your memory?...
OK - so be it... Enough for the post - I would like to continue about this next time when I have more time. But - don't forget think about this - about yourself. Be happy!
Today I'm intended to talk about you! Weird idea? Because I don't know anything about you... Or your relationships... At first glance it may be, but if to think logically - why not accept myself as you, despite of gender. Is it possible at all? I think it is... in some part at least... OK - let's discuss it a little bit more...
What is most important feature of a human being - be it baby, man-woman, grandpa-grandma? If you want to agree with me - EMOTIONS. Yes-yes also for animals (as we also are)... But because human brain is enormously larger, more important -more structurized - so also our emotional capabilities and emotional memory. For animals this creates so called reflexes, for human beings emotions create a huge and rich pool of emotions some part of which creates the way we all behave. Yes- it sounds too complicated but it is so - we are also complicated. Why I'm telling this to you? To you to understand, that there is not one and single way to become happier, to become more acceptable as friend and to become loved by someone whom you love. And know what? The most important physical feature of a human in regard of sympathy are what? Your eyes! because there is a "highway" between your emotions-feelings and your eyes. You can somewhat change what your eyes are reflecting by way of forcing your brain to think about some feelings (it is more correct to say - to remember some of your past feeling) and so to mirror your emotion about the feeling. Call it - DREAMING.
There is only a big question - have you such feeling in your memory?...
OK - so be it... Enough for the post - I would like to continue about this next time when I have more time. But - don't forget think about this - about yourself. Be happy!
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