Signs of unhealthy relationships

The previous posts were quite philosophical, that is, hard to follow. Today I'm talking about your (?) relationships... But at first I must begin with you - who are you, how do you behave and what do you think about yourself.
The first and most important thing in your every single relationship is - you. Without it there is no need to talk about relationships at all - but because you are reading this (in whatever virtual identity) then I think this point is fulfilled.
What about you? You must be you... not someone whom your partner, friend or fellow most likely wants that you are. And this means, that it is natural if you behave as you always are - there is common mistake to become someone who you never have been - just to gain interest, love and passion from someone you like very much. It's top of iceberg - you can't become someone you aren't. Yes - you can look like someone other looks, but it takes little time before all this "building" comes down with a painful crash - don't do this to others and yourself. If someone is truly interested in you (not just for short "sex period" or flirting) then it must be you not some kind of actress/actor wearing unnatural mask.
And it doesn't matter if you are not most beautiful, most sexy, most friendly, most wanted and so on... you must love yourself as you are - then is it possible also accept true and long lasting friendship...
Of course this doesn't mean that you must be simple, fool and arrogant - there is more in you than just animal. You have a big and developed brain and also huge pool of emotions in it... that to know what feelings are raising from what kind of actions.
So - the first point was about loving and taking care of yourself, before and while in a relationship.
What comes next? Partner. Of course you cant decide with one moment behaves he/she honestly or not - some kinds of "mistakes" swim up after some time of living together. But again - if he behaves like someone he is not , then there will be again misunderstandings and trouble. But it depends also from this how you like to see him/her - maybe you show him with your "likings - mislikings" what kind of partner do you like the most? But be honest - you can't change someone to be different person, as also yourself.
So second point - respect individuality, embrace differences, and allow the other person to be him-/herself.
That's it for the post.
Take care!